Smart Strategies for Protecting Yourself During Your Divorce

Getting a divorce is an experience that will have ups and downs. You do not have to get on the rollercoaster of negative emotions throughout the break-up, though. When you take steps to meet your own needs and ensure your interests are protected, you can prevent some of the lows. Consider these strategies for protecting yourself during your divorce.

Strategy #1: Make a Commitment to Prioritize Your Self-Care

Taking self-care seriously is important for anybody, but it can be a crucial part of healing during and after your divorce. Be proactive about self-care and strive to take practical actions to stay well. If you are not sure what works for you, try different things.

Take at least an hour per day to engage in activities that help you feel good. Try to exercise a few times per week. Make sure to eat healthy foods that can help ease or combat negative emotions, provide more energy, and help your overall physical health. Also, especially during this emotional time, ensure that you get the rest you need to feel alert and refreshed every day.

Consider therapy. The support you receive in therapy is different from what you will receive from loved ones. A counselor can help you handle the pain of a divorce and strengthen your coping skills, among other things. In addition to going to individual therapy, you may also opt for family counseling. Family therapy sessions can help you and your children adjust to your new normal.

Strategy #2: Be Smart About Money Throughout the Divorce

Your financial health may take a hit during a divorce. No matter the circumstances, anyone can experience financial setbacks when divorcing. However, there is sometimes a financial gap between divorcing spouses, and one spouse might end in worse financial health than the other. Take the reins of your finances to reduce the odds that you will struggle financially after the divorce.

Study your monthly income and expenses, especially if you have not been the one handling money in your marriage. Create a budget. Work on building your own individual credit as soon as you decide to get a divorce. Close all joint accounts you may have with your spouse. Speak to an attorney about whether you should pursue spousal support in the divorce.

Think carefully before selling your home. Many couples choose to sell their home and then split the proceeds, however, if you are in a rush to sell the home, you may be tempted to accept a lower price than it is worth. Do not make impulsive decisions during the divorce when it comes to financial matters. Carefully weigh the risks and benefits of each choice.

Also, since asset division can play a role in your financial stability after a divorce, have the correct documentation ready. Paperwork you want to have on hand includes information about your bank accounts, investments, mortgage, credit cards, retirement pensions, tax returns, or nuptial agreements. As Idaho is a community property state, these documents can help with the fair division of community property from your marriage.

Strategy #3: Ask for Help and Support When You Need It

Do not shy away from asking for help and support when you need it. Think about what you need to feel supported and comforted. If you frequently get down in the middle of the night, then ask a friend if they are okay with being available late at night for a few weeks. You may find that many friends and family members are willing to go the extra mile while you deal with this painful time.

The American Psychological Association emphasizes that it is especially important to tap into your support network during a divorce. What you cannot predict is whether your loved ones will intuitively know what you need when you need it, so take a risk and be open about the specific struggles you are facing. Directly ask for what you need.

Strategy #4: Seek the Advice of a Lawyer Early in the Process

One of the best ways to protect yourself during a divorce is by seeking the advice of an experienced divorce attorney early on. In fact, it is a good idea to talk to a lawyer whenever you start to seriously consider getting a divorce. Many aspects of getting a divorce are complex, and a lawyer can offer insights to help simplify the process.



Contact Hart Law Offices, P.C., if you are thinking about getting a divorce. When you meet with us for a consultation, we can offer advice on your unique situation and help protect your best interests every step of the way during your divorce. We look forward to meeting with you, discussing your specific circumstances, answering any questions or concerns you have, and helping you know your rights during this transitory time.